Binding Abuse

In the State of Texas, if one signs a legal document while intoxicated, under the influence of drugs, mentally handicapped, or under extreme duress, there may be grounds to have that contract declared null. However, if a woman who has suffered years of emotional and verbal abuse signs a divorce decree under the coercive hand of her abuser, why does she not have the same legal defense? 

Emotional and verbal abuse causes brainwashing, creating a sense of powerlessness and dependency.  This leads the person to use closed logic, having been forced through fear and intimidation to not question their abuser’s decisions. Abusers are master-manipulators who extort compliance. An abuser will threaten financial disaster and child removal in order to get Mom’s cooperation, while structuring their affairs so to appear to be the good guy.

According to the National Domestic Hotline website, “Domestic Violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person... behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound…”  Therefore, how can one, while under it, be held to a legally binding contract? If one is kidnapped, being kept under the watchful manipulation of the abuser, becoming brainwashed to the point of staying with their captor without restraints… does that mean they are no longer abused?  Do they deserve what happens if they are forced into a legal contract while enslaved? Are they bound by it?  Lawmakers, explain the difference between that person and a woman who lives 24/7 being belittled, controlled, embarrassed, manipulated, deceived, and overpowered emotionally, physically, financially and sexually?  Such is now the case in the great State of Texas.

Thank you for sharing this

Thank you for sharing this post. I can relate to it and it had opened my eyes a bit more. I now need to research this matter in my state of residency. Louna

Have you read WOMEN WHO LOVE

Have you read WOMEN WHO LOVE PSYCHOPATHS? It would explain so much of this horrible behavior of his to you and validate everything you are saying here!

My ex-wife of 15 yrs was

My ex-wife of 15 yrs was using brainwashing techniques on me for 15yrs. I tried to get away from her, with her saying she would have a nervous breakdown and say she couldn't work and I would have to pay for her rent and mine, which a lawyer told me this was true. So, I , ended up going back to her. It got so bad that, I , had a nervous breakdown from all the years of abuse. I was told , by my doctor , I , couldn't go back to work for at least 60 days. My ex couldn't accept this and threatened to throw me out. I went and bought a tent and supplies thinking , I , was going to have to live outside. I left a good job, I , wasn't thinking right and she took advantage of this. She wanted a divorice, which, I , gave her with no fight. She got everything. I am still on disability from the years of abuse. I could have taken her for a substantial amount of alimony, but didn't because, I , just wanted her out of my life. I now know what she has done to me, and , I , can say she is a very dangerous person.

Thank you for posting. It is

Thank you for posting. It is more rare, but men are emotionally and physically abused as well. It's ashame that when we try to play nice and do the right thing to work to preserve the ending marital relationship and protect the kids that the abuser takes advantage, all for the pleasure of control. Time slowly heals and having faith in a higher power that these challenges will make us stronger and have a bigger purpose than we could ever imagine, helps the healing process one day at a time. Thank you for sharing and posting a sensitive and personal challenge. Other men need to know that they too are not alone.

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