Could It Be????

Throughout the past 15 years of hell through which Benton has put me, I've seen no evidence of his heart belonging to God.  That really could be about to change.  Please let it be so.  I'm careful not to be too hopeful, as I have seen consistent evidence since I've known Benton Tower that he will do everything that is necessary in order to manipulate his way.  The evidence for that is in his convincing me that, "We only need one attorney for our divorce in order to save money.  I know the boys live with you and will continue to live with you, but since I am paying the attorney, he tells me that I (Benton) must be listed as the primary parent.  The same holds with me paying you (Jennifer) support; I've been paying you since our separation and will continue to do so, but I'm limited by what is in the degree if we state an amount.  Let's just leave it out and I (Benton) will continue to pay you (Jennifer) more than what I'm willing to place in the decree."  I am so sorry to say that I bought Benton’s lies and it has cost me dearly.                                                                                                

Maybe God has touched Benton’s cold heart, maybe not.  It seems that he has taken our boys to Wednesday night church 2 or 3 times recently.  This is a huge step, as he never once attended church with the children and me during our ten year marriage.  His reasoning to me back then was that he didn’t believe in going to church and that he thought attending church didn’t make any difference in whether you were a Christian or not.  You know what?  He is actually right on something.  You don’t have to attend church to be a Christian; however, most Christians who do attend do so out of faith and eagerness to serve God and to learn.                                                                                              

But for the most part, a person’s character speaks louder for their claim of being a Christian than attending church does.  Someone who purposefully takes his children away from their Mother, lies under oath about her in court, tries to pretend she doesn’t exist while replacing her with his mistress, and refuses to cooperatively co-parent with her because he wants to maintain control of her, does not demonstrate Christian character.  So you can claim to be a believer and you can claim to be a Christian, but if your heart is true and pure for the best interests of your children and what God says is right about how to treat your wife (the Mother of your children) who happens to now be your ex-wife, then none of these actions would be occurring.

Someone once asked me,  "Why don’t you attack him or treat him in the horrible way that he treats you?  He definitely deserves it.  You have earned the right."  Why, Not?  Let me tell you why not.  Firstly, I have a conscience that tells me that what he is doing is wrong and I can’t stoop to that level.  I have to look at myself in the mirror and know that I did the right thing.  Secondly, I answer to a much Higher Power than Mr. Benton Tower does and God knows that I am not acting in an “eye for an eye” manner with my behavior.  Thirdly, I was raised to treat others as I wish to be treated.  I have fought tirelessly to be amicable with Benton.  I have continued to cooperatively co-parent with him only to have it thrown back in my face and ignored each and every time.

I know that God can change Benton’s heart and help him to see the errors of his ways.  But for Benton to lie and to use God and church to manipulate the courts and Polli in order to get his way is sacrilegious and anti-Christian.  Benton attended church one time the weekend before he was to testify in court on Monday during our February 2007 trial.  He actually got on the stand and told the jury that they were trying to get help from their preacher and church on how to help the children, as if he had been attending this church all his life.  The jury bought it because they didn’t know it was his first and only visit to ANY church in years.

So Benton has been IN church on the last few Wednesday evenings.  My first response to this change in behavior is that he is playing Polli, his current estranged wife who now lives in an RV in Corpus Christi.  However, as I said, I am ready to admit that God is able to reach Benton in the same fashion as He reached Saul (in the bible), a persecutor and murderer of early Christians, who became the Apostle Paul, the greatest missionary of all time.  How do we know that Paul was really reached by God? Look at the CHANGES in his life.  No more persecution.  No more murder.  No more attacks.  He began to HELP people.  He gave up wealth.  He became a bond-slave of Jesus Christ.  He did, "... all things for all men so that in all things he might save some."  Paul WAS different.  He didn't just TALK differently.

If William Benton Tower turns his life over to God, he will THINK, TALK, and BEHAVE, differently than his wicked record shows.  That is my prayer.  How will we KNOW?  If what happened to Saul of Tarsus happens to Benton Tower of Sycamore Moon, San Antonio, TX, he will RETURN MY BOYS TO ME, where they desperately want to be.  He will inform Judge Martha Tanner that he indeed lied on the stand and that the judgment I have against me to pay his attorney’s fees was unjustly issued due to his perjured testimony.  He will begin PAYING child support to give his children the necessary childhood that they so desperately deserve, instead of calling my home and railing at my husband, "Hey, send me some MORE OF YOUR MONEY!"  He will begin to work WITH me and not AGAINST ME.                                      

Short of those ACTIONS, Mr. Benton Tower can go to church every night of every day for the next 50 years, and he will be building MORE evidence that he is manipulating Polli.  Polli's oldest son, who is listed as "in danger" in her EXISTING PROTECTIVE ORDER against Benton, is now living WITH Benton in San Antonio, WITHOUT POLLI as she lives in Corpus.  Benton, our two sons, Polli's one son, all live together IN POLLI'S HOUSE (Benton doesn't own it) and Benton is receiving COURT ORDERED $743/MO child support from me, that he is NOT using for our boys, but is using to pay his DEBT from the NEW POOL, NEW SCOOTER, NEW PRIUS, NEW RV, ...... ALL NEW SINCE THE COURT CASE in 2007.

Dear God, please save Benton... and CHANGE HIS HEART for the sake of our children and their future!

Before I leave you today, I want to make sure you are clear.  You might be thinking, “Jennifer, isn’t what you are writing in itself abuse and unchristian-like?”  No, actually it’s not.  Think of it this way.  I have said nothing that is not true.  I challenge anyone to prove that one word of my book or website is wrong, libelous, or inaccurate.  If there was something wrong in anything I’ve written, Benton, Polli, or his attorney, Mr. Robert Zepeda, would have filed suit.  Wouldn’t you?  They all know that I speak the truth and none of them wants any of this in court so that they can save face.  All I am doing is exposing and showing how abusive husbands, ex-husbands, and the legal system are allowed to take advantage of innocent Mother’s, wives, and citizens without any recourse or punishment.  If Benton had killed someone, am I supposed to just let it lie and say it would be unchristian of me to expose him?  Of course not!!! This is the same situation, except the offense is different.  Plus, this is a bigger epidemic than just Benton Tower.  Domestic violence and emotional abuse are out of control.  Given my experience and my dedication to help the cause I have been invited to speak and tell my story at multiple venues.  Awareness and Knowledge is essential and the only way to beat evil is to shine the light on it.