You'll Never Believe This - Or Maybe You Will

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, it appears that Benton's skill as master manipulator is hard at work again.  After you've read this, do you think that he's pulling Polli back with lies and deception, playing her like a finely tuned violin?  She's back at home with him, at least temporarily, and she even brought her two minor daughters with her.  Doesn't all this behavior go against the current Protection Order that is still in place according to Bexar.org? www.co.bexar.tx.us/webapps/html/DKLITDSP02.asp?txtLitIsn=0004654869 Looks to me like someone really has the denial blinders on. When Polli originally fled and was literally hiding from Benton, she took her soon to be 17-year-old son with her because she stated in her Protective Order Application that she was afraid for both of their safety.  However, she left her 14-year-old and 10-year-old step children in his care without warning the police or their Mother that she had sworn a Protective Order against Benton.  Now she is visiting him and bringing her two younger daughters who are 14 and 12, but not her son.  Does any of this make you question her emotional state of mind, or maybe her motive?

It's public record that she married and divorced her 1st husband twice, and according to what Benton told me, Polli told Benton that this 1st husband was an abuser.  If that were the case, why did she leave her two young daughters with him when they divorced for the second time in 2000?  Can Polli be trusted to see the signs of abuse?  Is coming back to Benton after years of his abuse natural? 

A lot of abused women find it very difficult to leave their abusers for good, due to the emotional hold their abusers have on them; this is proven fact.  Abusers are some of the best actors and they know exactly how to prey on their victim's weaknesses.  Their lies, manipulation, deception, fake smilies, and fake apologies, charming the women to drop any charges they have against them, or to not divorce them and leave them to be alone, are their tactics.  Abusers thrive on the fear they create and on their control and manipulation.

Do you suppose it's Benton's plan to draw Polli back into his web so that he can get a good strong hold on her this time?  That way, he's not left alone; he isn't kicked out of her house (separate property, bought prior to their marriage), so that he isn't left with any of the debt that he's accumulated during their marriage, and most importanly for him, so that he doesn't lose my boys (or the child support won by perjury)... boys who want to leave anyway.

Many emotionally and physically abused women return to their abusers out of guilt and shame.  Maybe they don't have family or friends to help them, maybe they no longer have the self-esteem and self-confidence needed to make it on their own.  However, it is only a matter of time before the abuse is fired back up and again the woman must flee for her own protection.