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In The Arms Of A Sociopath That is the name of my book, published in April of 2009. I too, was romanced and made to feel loved and protected by no other than a Sociopath. He came into my life while I was successful and full of joy and happiness. As the cameleon they are he changed after he arrived at his destination. That destination he traveled was full of bumps and long twisted roads. Even times when it appeared to be the end of the road like magic, it opened up and another pathway emerged. I know of what you speak and write. I know the legal system. I am in the middle of all aspects of this very evil, wicked, and humiliating experience. Thank God, I had no children with this loon. What I do have is a separated family, a son that does not speak to me, a mother who is in a nursing home in the last stages of Altzheimers and my one and only brother passed away and extremely empty pockets and a serious case of Herpes. I thought the legal system would be more merciful in Texas, however, it is not. I have endured horrible acts from him and still my attorney does nothing. He ate up $5,000 in 6 months and not one advancement, one paper filed on my behalf to support or help me or protect me. I am clearly on my own. My situation is somewhat different as he moved me from Texas to Louisiana where he was all to familiar with the laws there. I hired attorney and PI there, and today, I can say I am now divorced. But in Louisiana that doesn't mean anything as far as the property goes. I filed here in Texas but he was to smart for me, he moved me away just long enough to become a Louisiana resident and not a Texan. Seven months in Louisiana out drew 59 years of being a Texan. Who would of thought? I filed anyway, and added a Tort action against for the STD hoping it would help render me anything in the way of a dollar. Instead, he filed his own Tort action for deflimation and I too have many websites and tracking the ISP, give what, His attorney also is on my websites for hours at a time. Now I did not use this scumbags name in my book anywhere, so he was told he does not have any lawsuit but his attorney has such a hard on for me that he pursues even though he left me with zero money for his gain. Of course my attorney worthless as he was, allowed this predator to have 9 months to hide money, transfer funds, give away to family, let the home become past due, and completely ruin my credit for all of my life but yet, not one temporary order was filed to prevent this. He has harrassed me mentally since I arrived in Texas from Louisiana, even driving up in front of my rented TH and taking pictures. He lied to the mortgage co. and told them their was no marital problem therefore, no reason to contact me. When I contacted them, they did not mention the arrears on the mortgage. Do I feel like a victim? Yes. Have I gotten down on my knees and begged for help? Yes. Has our judicial system failed me completely? You decide. He sits holding previous conviction for domestic violence in Louisiana, yet today has a concealed weapon and carries it with him. He has arround $500,000 in investment accounts in his name only, the mutually owned property in Louisiana, well he purchased with my 401K and income from my labor. He works and pockets under someone elses SS number his income so nothing shows up in his name. His harrassment and intimidation continues daily yet I just yesterday fired my attorney. He never calls me, doesn't answer emails, is differently not my advocate, and the horror story to the fading end; his x wife died the very month he settled his property with her, giving her, yes that right, after twelve years and his wiping her out financially and emotionally and physically, she received from him, $35,000; which was out of the JOINT savings account so therefore was my money. She did have a permanent protective order against him and the only way it was going away was if she died. I really hope for you, things turn out better. But after my journey into the dark and trying to rise everyday with sunshine instead of rain, I feel defeat. If your defeated by a bully, what does one do. If you fight back trying to be the bully, but your not big or bad enough, what does one do? These stories go on everyday every corner of this world. The ones we hear about are the few that come to head of the news media because of the death of the person, usually because, she was pregnant or a child was too involved. What do we do to regain our lives back? Our judicial system helps sociopaths and I can't understand why? SK Covey

I am going though living hell with my soon to be ex Narcissist husband. He changed the locks on the house leaving me and our daughter (months old at the time) homeless with nothing. He said he would not financially enable me, meaning he cleaned out the bank account, stopped paying all bills in my name (they all are in my name), bought a new car in his name, leaving both cars in my name, removed his name from the auto insurance policy, threatened to have me arrested and threatened to try to get my teaching license revoked (not sure how) if I came to my house, had his lawyer threatened to have me arrested for burglary and theft if I came to the house to get our things. That was just the beginning, it has been 2 months since the lockout and he still has out possessions. The lockout was done w/o a court order and now I have to wait for the exclusive possession hearing in December, howver mylawyer put infor an emergency hearing for partial distribution of my things and it was DENIED! We have nothing, he has paid nothing. I have a PFA on him and after that he tried to get one on me whic was denied. his allegations were that I made him use generic contact solution against his will and it burned his eyes and I laughed, then he accused me of making him eat moldy bread. The court stenographer was giggling and I was so embarrassed that I had to even show up for such garbage. He has accused me of having PPD t p depression, a chemical imbalance, just being plain crazy, and the most recent is that I have a prescription drug addiction. There is so much more going on I can't even explain. My life is a 3 ring circus right now and he is now trying to batter me with the so flawed legal system. He is even trying for full custody of the baby. I just can't even believe that this is my life, it is so surreal. He has not paid his spousal or child support and I have been told I have to wait until November until anything is done. I am court ordered to give him visitation every Saturday from 10-4. No judge has been able to see this whole story yet and I am hoping that when it is all laid out in front of them it will go in my favor, I am trying to play by the rules but I am getting frustrated.

raped, physically, emotionally & financially. I met my ex, after being on my own for 8 years, we married a year later to the day, he was a loving caring, tactile man, & i thought i had met the one, he saw me as his queen, & said he would treat me as so... 8 weeks after our marriage, he caused a huge upset at my sisters wedding, asking me for a divorce as he felty i was ignoring him! 5 months later he raped me the week before xmas, his excuse was he was feeling horny & i was his wife. he used to watch our younger next door neighbour when she was in the shower, from the bottom of the garden, this i observed him doing on many occasions. after 3 years of counselling, i had finally had enough, i threw him out, that was the 5th may 2009, from that day, he continued to spy on me, turn my so called friends against me, terrify my daughter, slash all four tyres on the car, which would have been our 4th wedding anniversary, no evidence it was him of course! digusting phone calls, text messages, drive past the house constantly, park at the top of the road,damage to the property, report me to social services, the local council, tax credits, absolutely anything, i used to get porn magazines delivered, pages of my private emails to people i thought were friends, my entire list of facebook contacts deleted one by one. & so much more, i went tthrough hell for 9 months, In Sept 2009, he had me served with a summons, to go to court, as he had collected evidence, when i had reacted to his text & phone calls by returning the same, unbeknown to me that was his plan, but it was tooo late by then, i had deleted all mine from him! He paid £850 to the courts for a non molestaion order to be placed on me, the courts happily obliged him, & the abuse continued, by this time i was logging everything in a journal, & collecting the log numbers from the police, i felt they were sick to death of me complaining, so they slapped a harrassment order on him, didnt cost me a penny! i thought that was it, but oh no, not with my ex! he then pushed me all the way to final hearing, although i tried my best to resolve things out of court, to save on legal fees. he just paid for everything on his credit card. I finally got rid of him & my absolute on the 18th november 2009, what a great day that was, but i had to pay him 20k, for the priveledge, the courts gave me 3 weeks to pay him, i had to remortgage my home for another 20k, i have a legal aid bill for 6k, I feel he has been rewarded for his years of abuse on me, yet, hes lied on oath & through the courts, to make himself look like a victim! i also have a cronic heart condition, of which he knew about. the past 9 months has put a hell of a strain on me & my family. i have yet to get him to sign over the deeds of the property to me, although he got his money before xmas, has a girlfriend whome he says cant get enough of him, & is younger than me, all in his messages, he has attempted to set me up on a false charge of attacking him with a knife, but my sister was there at the time of the alleged incident, & saved me from any more mocking from this evil man, It now stands that he has brought me back to court on three counts of breaching the non molestation order, when he was parked outside my sisters home, when i went to visit her, & for writing him a letter, telling him my thoughts on his behavior, over the divorce! I have a CONCIENCE! IT IS CLEAR! i have never lied, deceived or manipulated the system, he has nearly destroyed any self esteem i had left , i was getting anxious, paranoid & was refusing to leave the house in case i bumped into him, after some fantastic cognetive therapy i am getting back onn my feet emotionally, but hes still out there, & living 5 minutes down the road from me, I have lived in my home town all my life, he is from nortth Yorkshire, he will not leave, but i will if i have to! ime not afraid anymore of him, in fact now i am the happiest ive ever been in my life!... because he cant get to me mentally, physically or emotionally anymore! I have been the lowest i have ever been at any point in my life, so much so i tried to take my own life the week before xmas last year. I couldnt go on anymore, i had had enough, he said he would screw me into the floor! & he did, everyway he possibly could, he'd got the sympathy from the blind people he has been fooling, Richard? they say, hes lovely, such nice manners & always helpful, ooh hes such a lovely man!! so damned infuriating! i am just pleased i got away from him, i was convinced that no-one believed me, it was only when the domestic abuse team & support from the catalyst tem(who are linked to the police) got involved that i could actually talk to people as to what i had been through, they were immensly supportive. & actually knew what was going on, they told me who he was, a narcissistic sociopath, & sexual preditor. SO THE MORAL OF THE STORY IS; DO NOT REACT, OR GIVE THEM ANY AMMUNITION,!!! i did, i gave him the bullets, loaded the gun & shot myself! ...he used this on all his ex wives!!he had the control, because we all fed his revenge!!!!!.... HE MILKED THE JUSTICE SYSTEM, & FED OFF THE DRIPS!!!!!

Since then he has fooled dozen of women with the same tricks. He is truly sick

These stories sound very familiar. I have been with a narcissist for the past twelve years, the last three of which we've been separated. To make a long story short, he's a serial cheater and substance abuser and has lied like crazy his entire life. Same seductive behaviors as mentioned above. He can make you think that you walk on clouds and fart rainbows. When I found out about his affairs, I tried to give him time to "work" on his "addictions." He was always self-absorbed and shallow in the process and never really showed remorse about what happened. Instead, it gave him more time to organize against me, lie to the community and get me out of our jointly owned house. DO NOT BE SOFT WITH A NARCISSIST -- YOU'LL LIKELY LIVE TO REGRET IT. The lessons I've learned: after you realize that your man has done unacceptable things to you (and count this if you SUSPECT he's been cheating, but you don't have the hard proof yet. If you SUSPECT it, it's almost certainly happened, trust me.), *shut your mouth* and quietly COLLECT AS MUCH INFORMATION AS YOU CAN. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING YOU POSSIBLY CAN, from financial documents, email, conversations, etc. It is ALL relevant. DO NOT open your mouth about anything, especially that you SUSPECT him in any way. If you can, skim money off of the accounts for yourself to use later. (You'll need it because he will lie and try to cheat you out of everything.) You could even put valuables into storage so he can't take them later. Second, do not move out of the house! Get the locks changed and call the police if you are worried that he will create a stir. You can file an ex parte motion to have legal protection to get him out of the house, but if you do that, be sure that you have retained the savviest lawyer in town. DO NOT rely on your own instincts. Talk to people and find out who has the best reputation as the toughest, smartest lawyer around. DO NOT give these people (narcissistic exes) second and third chances. Abusers rarely make long term changes. DO NOT confront them until you fully have your plan in place. Be sure that they aren't on to you by reading your emails or looking at your phone records. Buy a TracFone or other pay-as-you-go service and make sure you're using private browsing on your computer AND deleting all of the cookies from the sites you visit. Judges are often lame (as this website attests), so it is imperative that you get a top tier attorney that will be a bulldog for you. Borrow money -- don't be cheap about this -- because you are going to lose money from someone like your ex no matter what. However, if you get a decent attorney, you may have a shot at getting something close to fair. My thoughts and prayers are with anyone in this position. BE STRONG and stay righteously indignant whenever you want to throw in the towel in your fight for a fair settlement.